What to do when you hate your job

So it’s Sunday evening and all you can think about is waking up in the morning and going to that thing you call a job.  Your Sunday is ruined because all you can think of is this job you have to do, that you absolutely despise, so what to do when you hate your job? But why do you hate it so much? Why does it cause you this feeling of anxiety and a want to not do it any longer. There are probably a lot of reasons, but the only real thing keeping you there, is the fact you have bills to pay, right? Otherwise you wouldn’t be doing it of course. There are hundreds of reasons why you hate your job, but really understanding why, can help you realise that for your own health and well being you probably need a change. So let’s take a look at some of the reasons why you hate your job.

1. No Passion for it – It seems pretty simple right? But with anything in life, you really need to enjoy what you are doing. It sounds easy to say in practice, but the reality is, if you are not doing something you love, you’re probably going to get bored after the first 6-12 months. Once you have mastered the art of doing something,  you realise that you don’t really like it. Yes you might have liked it at the start, while you were gaining some knowledge, but after a while, you are just going to feel like like blah! What the f#ck am I doing here? I have just wasted all this time on this job and now I want out.

2. Show me the money – Yes, money, money, money, can make people do jobs that they loathe, because well, it pays pretty damn good. But is that money worth all that misery? Probably not. If your job choice is based on the money, rather than something that inspires you, well you’re probably doomed in the long run.

3. I am so much better than this – You know that feeling that you should be doing something bigger than what you are doing. Stop feeling guilty about this, if that’s a feeling you have, it doesn’t make you ungrateful, it makes you ambitious.  Follow your ambition rather than following a line of complacency, which generally is the easy option.

4. It’s what I studied – Who cares? Haven’t you heard of change? Just because you decided to study something when you were 18 years old doesn’t mean it should be the thing you do for the rest of your life. There is a reason you are hating this job right now and that’s because you have changed as a person. It is almost crazy to think you are going to do something for your whole life. Once the interest has gone, it’s time to move on.

5. My job lacks any meaning – Well unfortunately that would be the case for many jobs, if not all of them. When your job doesn’t connect with your values and goals you are most definitely going to feel this way. At the top of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs is ‘self actualisation’.  If you are in a job that doesn’t help you to find this, well chances are you are not going to like it.

6. It takes up way too much of my time – The horrible position of being employed on a salaried role, where the expectation is, you need to be there all the time. Yet they seem to harp on about work-life balance. Seems odd, doesn’t it? Unfortunately, it is all too common, the reality vs expectation. You need to ask yourself if spending so much time at your job is worth it? If you are constantly thinking, I spend way too much time at this job, well that’s probably a bad sign.

7. My boss is an a$$hole – This is a killer! In can be demoralising, to your confidence and your work output. Someone who either micro manages you, has constant unreasonable requests and is generally not that nice to be around. The good news is, it’s not you! People who act this way are typically the ones who are generally threatened and unhappy people themselves. Best to confront or get away from this situation asap.

8. Impending doom – A company that is going through hard times, with imminent job cuts, talk about breaking the backbone of the workforce. Everyone turns into stunned rabbits, but management harp on about how everything is going to be o.k. ‘We are the life blood of this organisation’. Well their job is to manage expectations and allow for efficiencies to continue, it’s in their best interest, because well, their job may also be under threat. It is a tough situation to be involved in, but as scary as losing your job maybe, it could also be the greatest thing that happens to you, especially if you don’t enjoy your job in the first place.

9. The commute is killing me – If travelling an hour or more each way is making you count the hours lost in your life, you need to ask yourself the question, do you like your job and hate the commute? Or do you hate both job and the commute. If its the first, you probably should figure out ways to change that. Ever thought of moving? Maybe take up some extra curricular learning, make that time count for more.

What do I do now?

While it all seems so hard to just say, f#ck it. I’m going to move onto something totally different, sometimes you just need to.  Being brave is not easy, it can be tough, but it really is just something of the mind. Constantly thinking of the reasons not to change because of money and stability and all the other different excuses someone will make, is just negative and a defeatist attitude. The reality is that execuses are not going to make you feel better, it will just continue to build that feeling of apathy and complacency. Stop being one of the living dead and change your life.  You can plan for this change. Just the thought of doing something different can be the motivator that gets you up in the morning, making you realise that who cares about this job that I am going to right now, because in the not too far future, I will be doing something I really enjoy.

If your potential new career is one, which will most definitely pay you less than you are currently earning, make the change a gradual one. Scale back your life, as in, change your life to suit what you want to do in the future. Yes it’s nice to have fancy cars, and a fancy house, but is it worth the heartache of a job that drives you insane? Simple answer, no, so readjust, make some change, plan ahead for your exit out of this toxic feeling. Plan your life around the work you want to do and then make the necessary steps to align yourself to realising that dream job.  Just scale back to adjust for that change in income.  This will have two benefits, you will begin to save money, and you will begin to see the change in the not too far future. Hope always wins.

Another obstacle to the change is that you don’t have the qualifications. Well, enrol in a course that will help you get the necessary qualifications to do the job. There are so many ways of learning today, whether it’s formal education or online courses through resources such as Udemy, just get out there and learn something new, something that you love and something that you are actually interested in. If the job doesn’t require any qualifications, but you don’t have the necessary experience, volunteer your time and learn on the job, who is going to say no to some extra hands for free? Who know’s that volunteer work that you have been doing, may just lead into a potential position.

The other thing to look at is possibly running your own business. Yes it can be an extremely scary thought, where do you even start? Well the good news is, you already have a job that pays you for your time.  Now you need to plan in your spare times for your potential new start up. The beauty of the modern day tech based world, is there are unlimited resources for you to figure out the steps in launching your business, whether its a product or a service. All the tools you need to execute are waiting for you online. It has never been easier in the history of time to start a business. Another benefit of having a day job, is that you can also gradually work on your new start up as a part time adventure outside of regular working hours and work it to a place where you can say, heck ‘all in’ and give up that day job that has rubbed you the wrong way for years.

If you don’t know what you want to do, you haven’t figured that out yet. Remember to be constantly learning new things, don’t be a creature of the system.  If your life is running on auto-pilot, where you wake up everyday, do the same shit on repeat and then go home and waste a whole bunch of time because you have no more mental energy, just stop wasting time. Turn off the TV, turn off the video games, stop abusing social media and reinvest that time into learning about something you love.  The choice is yours and the only one who can change that destiny, is you.  You can choose to be that mouse on the wheel or the person who makes the wheel.  Trust me, once you figure the wheel you want to make and decide to go after it, your life will change forever.


Resources

What To Do When You Hate Your Job

What to Do When You Hate Your Job and You Don’t Have Anything Else Lined Up (Yet)

What To Do When You Hate Your Job

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